March 7, 2009
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Do you know what you have to do? You have to throw away everything you want, everything you expect, everything you wish you could see and look at WHAT IS THERE. You tear away the perfect clothing that hides the amputated limbs and you accept those pieces of plastic for what they are and not what they pretend to be when they are under loose fabric.
We are CRIPPLED and what we really want from the loves in our lives is to be accepted AS WE ARE. But before we can expect this from the people in our lives, we must be able to do this for them. Friends, lovers, it doesn’t matter. We need to strip away the might-be’s and the false images that exist in our minds and open our hearts to the truth. As it exists. That very moment.
It’s ok to want things from others, to expect certain things. You can even help them to become stronger in the places where they are weak. But this is not what you love. You love their strengths, their weaknesses, and the works-in-progress. You love their skin, their scars, their smooth parts, their perfect parts, their missing fingers, toes, feet, arms.
And you have faith that they will see yours, and accept them too. This faith–it comes with time–makes it easier to throw away the masks and the perfect clothing more often and show your own whole to another.
This is when love achieves true depth.
Let me know if you ever get there.
